All of us struggle/have struggled with lust in our past (even the preacher). It's hard for both men and women to live sexually pure lives in this sexually twisted culture. But the culture lies; what we're told will satisfy doesn't and what we're told is 'boring' (marital faithfulness) actually leads to fulfillment. A survey recently revealed that the most sexually satisfied people are married couples in their 50s. Faithfulness works!
While mowing the lawn yesterday, I heard a great podcast from Gateway Community Church about sex. It was a series entitled Sex in the City. As I was mowing, I was thinking "why hadn't I heard this before this morning." The pastor made a great comment, "lust is different than sex. A man can be completely sexually fulfilled but still tempted to lust." That's completely true in my life. Erin and I have a wonderful sex life and yet I still have to guard myself against the temptation to lust. I'm a man, I'll always have the temptation. But with the power of the Resurrection, I can be more than just "normal."
After the message, I had a guy share his story with me. While he said it was okay to use his name, I'm choosing to keep it private. Believe me, I respect this guy a ton. And even more so after he got so honest with me and said I could share his story. So here's what he had to say:
For me, sexual temptation is like a deep slimy pit. I stood on the outside of it, looking in, and it looked fun and harmless. Once I jumped in, I couldn't get out. I tried and tried. I knew I was in the wrong place but I coudn't get out. Every once in a while I would get so disgusted or ashamed at myself, I would start to make a little headway in escaping. However, before I would know it, I would fall back to the bottom. Sometimes I would think about giving up trying to get out. However, a combination of your preaching, God's voice in my head and a podcast kept me going. The podcast talked about what the story of your life is. I didn't want my story to be involving my kids or wife saying, "He was a good guy, but that time I caught him looking at THAT on the computer, that really changed my level of respect for him." Then I wandered into a honest men's accountability group. They don't work for everyone, but for me, the change was instant. I didn't want to have to look the guys in the face and tell them that I fell flat on my face.
Now, I have climbed the ladder out of the hole and can see out of the top. I have pushed the sexual temptation monster out of my way and I can see all the other hurdles and holes in my life. I don't want to fall back into the sexual temptation hole because I am not sure I will be able to find the ladder again. Really, I don't know the formula for getting out of the hole. I had been trying for over a decade with utter failure at every turn. My best guess is it was a combination of a high level of desire to get out along with peep pressure with a lot of God's grace. Anyway, my life has changed and I really don't want to go back to where I was before.
CHRIST IS RISEN! Now go get accountable!!!